Have you ever been in a business or professional situation where you feel like you just can’t be yourself?
You know, like you’re wearing clothes that aren’t really “you” and you’re trying to think of the “right” words to say… but secretly you’re wishing you could just let your hair down, kick off your shoes, and relax at home on the couch…
If only that person you were trying to impress would still recognise your value, skill and professionalism when you’re in your tracksuit!
I was re-reading the book Creating Heart-Centered Websites today (which is awesome, by the way… ) and the author, Mark Silver, was talking about the importance of showing some colour in that part of your website where you write about yourself.
Here’s the excerpt (p37):
Of course, it’s not all about personality. But that’s the part that gets left out most often when someone in your position thinks they have to leave their heart behind to be successful in the so-called ‘business world’.
And the so-called ‘business world’ is poorer for it. Here’s a question for you to take action on: What part of yourself are you hiding from your business, because you think it will scare people off? And, how can you begin to introduce it into your presence in the marketplace?
Good question, huh?
When I read it, my first thought was – “Wow, I’d love to share this in the Find the Spark! Newsletter and Blog, because it might help you in your business – and plus, I’m really curious about what your response would be…
But then I thought about it – Why am I so curious?And the answer probably proves the point: I’m curious because it’s such a personal question. It’s also the kind of question that not every one feels ready to answer.
Exposing your true self is always a risk… It could pay off bountifully… but, then, the fear (and the reason this part of you is still is a secret) is – it could backfire badly.
Well, because I find that Mark is generally right about things (sometimes to my chagrin), I’m going to take the risk, and start some true confessions here… In the hope it might create some safety so I get to hear back from you.
What part of yourself are you hiding from your business, because you think it will scare people off? And, how can you begin to introduce it into your presence in the marketplace?
Actually, my big secret… which I thought might be too personal to tell you, is… I’m pregnant (!)
When I started Soul Business last year, I really felt that I had found a business (or perhaps it found me) that I could commit to for a long time. I imagined every effort I made in the business steadily gathering momentum to the point where (as one dear friend suggested), I’m sitting on Oprah, holding the first Soul Business book in my hand and sharing this work with millions of people…
An unexpected pregnancy hasn’t exactly dashed those dreams (how could I give up on Oprah? :)) But it has changed the nature of my steady trajectory of business progress. That trajectory has to be more flexible now, a little more round-about, to include the “eat-sleep-rest”-focussed early phase of pregnancy, the month or so devoted to birthing later this year, and the many months of emotional and bodily attention for the helpless and gorgeous little person who’ll be joining our family after that.
I worried that if I told you, you’d think I wasn’t dependable or committed to the business. Now that I’ve said it, I have a feeling that’s not the case… but only you can tell me that.
And for my own part, I’m thinking this pregnancy could be exactly what I need, to remind me of what Soul Business is really about:
- Surrendering to the deeper call of the Soul
- Being true to the needs of the moment, and
- Trusting the divine intelligence to show us the highest and best way forward in any business situation… even if (especially if) it’s unexpected!
So, perhaps there’s a lesson in this for all of us.
Anyway, now I’ve told you mine…Will you tell me yours?
First, of course, I’m desparate to know: Did I scare you off? Or did telling you my secret make you more interested in me – not less?
And then I’m longing to know: Is there a part of your life that you’ve been holding back from your business? And could that hidden factor in fact be the key to liberating your business and attracting more clients?
What do you think? You can comment under this article, or send me an email….